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What
Is MyGriefSpace.net?
MGS
is an ever-growing network of people who have lost loved ones
sharing stories of their loved ones, their losses and their
journeys with grief and healing. Member always participate at
their personal comfort level. Our Support Groups, Blogs (public
or private), Forum and Chats provide a place to share or
connect with other members who have also lost loved ones.
Expressing
your losses at MGS (public or private writing,
chatting, emailing), and offering and receiving peer support is
one of the most effective ways to help you cope with the changes occurring
in your life as a result of your loss. MGS is never
intended to take the place of professional services,
but rather provides additional support online to help
you cope with your loss and grief.
Please
note that if you wish to connect with other MGS members, it will
take initiative on your part to reach out and
initiate contact. We provide a free internal mail
system specifically for this purpose; so you can safely send
mail to other members without revealing your outside email
address. You can also block unwanted mail from other members.
Please
contact us if
you have any questions about your loss and grief, or our
special community at MGS.
Site
Tutorial
Loss
To Suicide
Did
you know someone commits suicide every 16 minutes? There are
many resources available to help you with your loss. If you
don't know where to turn, please ask and I'd be happy to
help.
Consider
joining me and some others from the chat room at the AFSP Out of
the Darkness Overnight in Boston June 26-27, please visit theovernight.org.
What an
amazing way for us to connect, remember those we love, heal and
give back to making others aware of the critical nature of
suicide. If you can't make the overnight, consider a local walk
in your area (Click
Here for Events).
Join
us every Wed at 9:30 pm EST in the Loss to Suicide (LTS) chat
room.
Helping
you with your healing,
-Tracy, Loss To Suicide Moderator
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When Teens Grieve
Like
all grievers, teens have individual needs to cope with their losses.
View
Teen Book List Here
Have Your Read The
Blogs Lately? The
Blogs are more than just stories. They are the real life experiences
of members who have lost loved ones and are struggling to cope with
their lives after loss. The
Blogs are a place to read about the experiences of others with losses similar to your
own, and, if you wish, to reach out and offer your support and
form new
friendships with other members on our site. The
Blogs are also a place to find hope in the stories of those who have
found a path to healing thru faith, family members, supportive
friends, personal and spiritual growth, and more. Please
browse the Blogs, and when you find others whose journeys touch your heart, take a few
minutes to send them a personal mail message and share your own
story.
You've
Got Mail
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offers our own mail system so you can securely exchange mail with
other members without revealing your outside email address. You
can block individual members from contacting you by visiting their
Profile Page and selecting "IGNORE" under "My
Options". Go
to your own 'My Profile Page / Options' to turn off notifications. However, if you turn
Notifications off, please be aware you will not be notified to your
outside email when someone at MGS sends you a message so this is not
recommended. . If
you receive SPAM or other inappropriate contacts, please contact
us.
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welcome Q&A, stories, poems, tributes & memorials,
birthdays, questions, photos, anniversaries, grief
info, etc. Submissions
To support@mygriefspace.net
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Anger!
Q. I am so
full of anger since
my husband and father of our teenage sons died that I cannot
function some days. I find myself unexpectedly lashing out at
family, at store clerks, and people around me. It's crippling and
embarrassing and yet somehow I just don't care. People just keep going
on like nothing is wrong in the world and I cannot help but feel
bitterness and anger at God and everyone that I am stuck in the
middle of this senselessness and I will
never see my husband again. (-Anonymous)
A. You have every right to feel hurt and
angry. However as you are no doubt learning, lashing out at others
is
not making you feel better, neither in the short or long-term. It only
consumes precious energy that is fragile right now, and adds to
your stress and sadness.
I once lashed out at
people after I had lost a loved one to suicide, and it always left
me feeling worse, not better. I soon learned to prepare myself
before venturing out by playing out how I would respond to
various situations.
I
note that you mention God, and also state you will never see your husband
again... It's okay to be angry at God, because surely He
understands our anger and grief more than anyone. Faith calls on
us to believe
in the un-provable and unknown, including a belief that you will
see your deceased loved ones again. People often lean on their faith to
prop them up, or lean away from faith in confusion or anger, which can leave them
feeling as if they are floundering and creating another empty
space in their lives, in addition to their loss. And, there
is a choice.
It's
very true that people
around you keep going on, because the world around us cannot stop even
if we want it to. It is
important for you to acknowledge that people may need to know where you are in your grief, and what
you need. While this can may be aggravating and tiring, in
truth many people do not respond to our grief simply because they do not know
how to or when to respond.
I
am concerned that you and your sons be able to support one
another. Please talk this over with them and make sure they know
you are all in this together and will get through it together, one
day at a time. It will help all of you to explore grief
support groups and counseling, and each of your needs will vary.
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